I have a dream for my life. I’ve dreamed it for years. I have a house on a beach, I can go grocery shopping without counting pennies, I help people achieve their dreams and goals. I’ve wanted this for so long, and I’ve always known that one day, my dream will come true.
I always knew it.
And – since I knew it, I didn’t do anything. If I dreamed the dream, and I had the knowledge that it would happen – then it would, right? What else is there to do other than dream and wait?
That was my philosophy for years and, to no one’s surprise, though years passed, nothing changed. And one day, while contemplating my lack of progress, I had an epiphany that led to one of the most valuable lessons of my life.
Lesson #1: Your dreams won’t just happen, you have to make them happen.
It seems so simple. Of course, I must make them happen. But the truth is, if it were that easy to do, then everyone would do it.
Realizing that I had made NO progress in over a decade, I knew I had to get my ass in gear. So you’d think I’d have gotten my ass in gear right away.
First, I felt sorry for myself for a few weeks. There was a lot of sadness for the time lost, anger for not realizing this sooner, fear that it was too late, and anxiety about the future. For me that was important because:
Lesson #2: It’s ok to give yourself permission to feel disappointment and experience sadness for your perceived or actual losses.
I allowed myself to feel for a little while, but not too long cause that kind of negativity can get habit forming. There’s a difference between experiencing an emotion and wallowing in it.
THEN I got my ass in gear. I went through a process, one I go through regularly when I have a target I’m trying to reach, regardless of the nature of that goal. Do you want to know the process I went through? Well you will when I come back with the first step!
Next installment of the blog, we’ll talk about STEP 1 of this plan, and how to make it work for you!